October 2006 my site has a new look and I hope you like it. One of the major problems I feel we face today in the
world is the fact that teenagers and adults do not know how to socialize with each other. Think about it, everything we learn on this earth is a learned behavior, socializing
is a learned behavior too and should be incorporated into the USA Board of Education School curriculum ? Their would be alot less problems on earth if more people were
taught how to socialize properly in school. If a parent came from a disfunctional household, or if a teenagers parents are presently in jail and cannot teach them correct
social skills ? Then who's responsibility is it to make sure that each school student learns how to socialize and apply those skills correctly within society.
Here a
good example because it had to happen to you within your lifetime. How many times have you been involved a conversation with
a friend or associate and someone walks by and knows the person you are talking to, they do not know you, but the stranger just breaks straight into your current ongoing conversation
just to talk to the person they know without even saying excuse me to you, shaking your hand, saying hello, or even saying good bye to you when they are finished talking to their
friend. After when he/she is finished talking to their friend they just walk off without even saying a word to you or acknowledging your existence in life, in other words " your
the invisible man or women " ! This is very disrespectful
creates ill feelings and has contributed on the wholesale level to the huge lack of socializing and communication skills within our own communities. This creates mistrust for others you do
not even know and
continues to build higher stone wall barriers of communication within our own communities within the same ethnic groups/s that live their together in the same area. A large number of fights within our
school system start directly from a lack of socializing and communication skills. Most kids and adults today do not know, when you want to say something that is derogatory or say
something to put someone in their place you cannot say it out loud to that person especially if they are walking with friends or are around a large crowd they hang out with or
group of people that they do
not personally know. This is an unwritten rule that should be observed and why so many fights are started just because one person disrespected the other in front of strangers or in front of friends. The correct way to approach
this communication problem is ? Walk up to the person if they are alone, if they are with friends or in front of a large crowd, ask them politely can I speak to you for a
moment in private " ! They will say ok, then walk with them to the side and tell them ? I do not want you to raise your voice my friend, or get loud, then tell them what is on your mind respectfully. It is the only way that a person that knows he/she
was wrong, will take the chance to apologize to you directly without them losing face in front of their friends and without being disrespected by you in front of a crowd.
I have constantly seen many stupid fist fights in the streets
of NYC and throughout
the year's within my own community, all because one person did not know how to address a current communication problem between one or two people. No one has ever thought about teaching
local NYC USA resident's on the wholesale level, the proper way to communicate their feeling effectively, and how to socialize with other people respectfully. Most people would say, " it is the
parents that should teach their own children how to communicate and socialize " ? But today kids are having kids, if the parent was never taught how to communicate and socialize then
how are they supposed to teach anyone else. No one ever taught my parents how to effectively communicate and socialize, so how could you expect them to effectively teach me ? I
believe in learning from other peoples mistakes as well as my own. I just happened to pick up my communicating and socializing skills on the fly. On weekends we were never home
and continuosly socializing with different people outside the district borders of my home. We were always around alot of different people and involved with our Churches Boy Scout
Troop 545 in Bed-Sty Brooklyn. I was also involved with the Church as an alter boy and learned by watching politicians as they ran for political office during elections. By
watching the politicians I slowly learned how
to communicate effectively, by smiling, saying hello, holding out my hand and pressing the flesh like I was running for a vacant political office seat that is how I learned the
art of socializing but this is not the correct way for anyone to learn the art of socializing. My comprehension skills were always on point and I always felt politicians were very smooth as
they waited into a crowd smiling, saying hello, introducing themselves, and shaking everyone's hand they could. I always paid special attention when ever their was and election
campaign operating, I felt like I was in socializing class 101 during the entire election campaigns as I watched the politicians on TV and when ever they came and spoke within
our community. I wrote down and intently gathered socializing and communication information realizing the do's and don'ts when to, and when not to socialize with people. It eventually occurred
to me that socializing is truly an art form of its own. If The Board of Education does not have a program I feel they should put together a socializing curriculum to teach current students because it
would greatly reduce the amount of daily fights within their own school system. I'am a product of The NYC Board of Education School System, throughout my school year's as I
attended elementary, junior, and high school within the Board of Education school system no one ever thought about teaching the students socializing and communication skills, or
how to respectfully explain and convey your thoughts to other people. I truly feel if The USA Board of Education adapted a new socializing 101 curriculum { unless they
already have one that I have not heard about } they would have
alot less problems in America dealing with school age children, teenagers, young adults and staff because. No one has ever taught anyone that I knew of, how to respectfully
socialize with other people. I heard that only the rich are able to accomplish this task with their children. But in the ghettos across the USA, socializing lessons are totally
out of reach for most residents because most have never heard of socializing skills before nor can they afford the educational classroom lessons. I'am quite
sure that more than three quarters of The NYC Board of Education staff that presently teach our kids and the other half of the staff that currently work for The Board of
Education were never taught in elementary, junior, or high school classrooms how to socialize with their own neighbors.
This is a present issue our government needs to address that most people take for granted and others do not want to admit. It is just one of the main reasons why as quiet as it is kept that the jails are kept
full, why residents will not walk through certain parts of their own community even doe they are part of the same ethnic group and live only blocks away. You can not walk into
someones house without saying hello to the occupant or owner if you do the owner or occupant will get mad and say out loud or think to themselves, " who the hell do you
think they are " ! The same rules apply on the street, when you venture into a block or neighborhood where you do not live and you are coming into their neighborhood to visit
a friend or contact someone. After living within the ghetto for year's and after going into many area's that most people would never walk through by myself at night and during
the day. I have found that if you first speak to the
residents that are hanging out around the building or house where you want to pass through or go into it is best if you speak first why ? Because you are the stranger entering
their neighborhood domain, they live there they do not have to talk to you first you are the stranger coming into their community or home turf. For those nay-sayers yes you could still get robbed or physically hurt, but
it is the way you carry yourself and the force behind the words you speak. Anyone even with low intelligence can pick up on your machoism and bold unafraid attitude. Lack of
socializing skills creates seperatism, maintains racism, increases ignorance, and starts fist fights. People can get stabbed and others have been outright murdered, all due to a lack
of proper socializing and respectful communication skills. Ask your children's schools teacher, principal or PTA representative, do they teach socializing and
communication skills at their school, and if they do not ? Then ask when they could start up a new socializing and communication skills class ! Next time you see a friend talking to
stranger you do not know, and you want to speak to your old friend immediately. Remember to say hello and introduce yourself to the stranger after saying hello to your friend. and after
when your ready to leave, say good bye to your personal friend, the old stranger and the new
friend you just met.
Written by - The WEb"MAster - Randy Hudson
IMPORTANT CANCER UPDATE FROM JOHNS HOPKINS UNIVERSITY ..... PLEASE READ
Cancer News
Johns Hopkins has recently sent this out in its newsletters.
1. No plastic containers in microwave.
2. No water bottles in freezer.
3. No plastic wrap in microwave.
This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as
well.
Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Dioxin
chemicals causes cancer, especially breast cancer.
Don't freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases
dioxins from the plastic.
Recently, Dr.. Recently, Dr. Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program
Manager at Castle Hospital, was on a TV program to explain this health
hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us.
He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using
plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat.
He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases
dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body.
Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or
ceramic containers for heating food. You get the same results, only
without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and
soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in
something else. Paper isn't bad but you don't know what is in the paper.
It's just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc.
He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants
moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one
of the reasons.
Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as Saran, is just as
dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the
food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt
out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food.
Cover food with a paper towel instead.
Updating Your Thought Patterns, Will FREE Your Mind
1. Changing your thinking,
changes your beliefs
2. Changing your beliefs, changes your expectations
3. Changing your expectations, changes your attitude
4. Changing your attitude changes your behavior
5. When I change my behavior, I change my performance
6. When I change my performance, I
can then, " Change My Life " !
Written by - The WEb"MAster - Randy Hudson
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